Get Unstuck: 4 steps to get clear on what you want and turn it into reality
“I don’t know what I want, but I know I need to do something”
Sound familiar? Being a busy professional, it’s easy to put yourself and your dreams onto the back burner. Maybe you’ve been thinking about a career change or planning that dream trip to Amalfi or signing up for that improv class.
But, you haven’t done it. Why?
As a career transition coach I see so many people wanting to find more fulfillment and purpose in their careers and lives. By the time they find me, they’re done with excuses. The light has gone on. They want to carve out time in their busy lives to put the focus back onto themselves and their dreams.
The challenge is that most just don’t know where to start. More likely than not, their dream is a bit fuzzy. They know something is burning inside of them, but they need time to get more clarity and steps on what to do next.
When the light is on, it’s the perfect time to take that long-held desire to do something and start to transform it from a fuzzy vision into a clear vision. We start with these four steps:
Step 1: Clarifying Your Dream – Finding Your North Star
John C. Maxwell defines a dream as “an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it.”
If you don’t spend time clarifying your dream, you’re not going to know where you’re going.
You have to find your North Star, which is your inspiration, it’s why you get up in the morning. It’s the work that you’re here to do. It’s the driving force behind your dream. The more specific you can be about your dream, the more excited you will be to pursue it.
To clarify your dream you need to figure out what you really want. If you don’t exactly know yet, start by figuring out what you don’t want .
Once you know what you want, it’s helpful to lock it in by getting to the heart of your WHY. Simon Sinek, the “Why” advocate shares in his Ted talk , “People don’t buy WHAT you do, they buy WHY you do it.” Start by asking yourself, “why do I want this”? Dig deeper by asking yourself, “why is that important” – keep going until you get to the heart of it (freedom, creative expression, unconditional love, etc.). Then ask yourself, “What would I do if I knew I would succeed?
Once you’ve identified your North Star, it’s time to start envisioning your success.
Step 2: Envisioning Success: The Power of Visualizing
Visualizing opens up your mind, expands your perspective, and unlocks your creativity. It’s important is to be free and unlimited and allow your imagination to run wild and free.
Visualizing is a way to turn your brain off for a moment instead of thinking about reality. It’s a way to tap into your higher self, your subconscious mind and create from a space of nothing.
It’s a place where you’re able to feel what it feels like to already be in your dream, so you’re able to lock in that feeling of what it’s like to already have achieved it. That feeling is feeding your subconscious mind and you are able to identify and zone in on the opportunities that are going to be leading you to your North Star.
Mary Morrissey explains visualization as “a place that the power of our imagination is rooted. As you let the childlike side of yourself begin to dream and get emotionally involved with ideas that enliven you, you enter a new realm of possibilities. This new realm of possibilities comes with new solutions that were previously unavailable to you.”
Through this technique, I have manifested my relationship, dream trips and business partnerships. Recently, while facilitating Paint Your Wildest Dreams workshop for a women’s retreat in the Poconos I realized that I was actually living inside a dream from a seed I had planted 5 years prior while on a retreat in Ecuador.
I had been envisioning in vivid detail The Inspirality Center, what it would look like, the design of the building, the view, who would be there and how I would feel being in the space. I saw myself leading life changing creative programs and attracting the best healers and teachers in the world.
It suddenly dawned on me as I was setting up, the room was very similar to my vision – big open space with sliding doors that revealed a beautiful view of a lake. I was surrounded by a beautiful community of women, who were healers and teachers leading life changing creative programs to women attendees who were there to create and live empowered lives.
That’s the power of envisioning! If I hadn’t spent time creating and clarifying my dream back then, I wouldn’t be where I am today.
Step 3: Declaring Your Dreams To Create Opportunities
Declaring it provides the opportunity to not only say it to yourself but the others around you will experience your dream through your own words, your unique expression and passion.
For some, it’s not always easy to share it – for reasons like vulnerability, maybe some will laugh or say it’s unachievable. Personally, I had a story in my head that I’m not engaging or interesting enough and that people are bored when I speak ( limiting beliefs at its finest!). I recognized it as story and regularly challenge myself to share my vision with others because that’s when it starts becoming real and opportunities start showing up
When others hear you, you start to create personal accountability and through sharing it opportunities show up that might not have been there otherwise. Maybe someone has a helpful connection or is looking for what you have to offer. You just never know!
Step 4: Solidifying Your Vision With Your Unique Creativity
The creative process adds fuel to your fire and allows the space to really connect to your vision on a deeper level. I encourage my clients after our deep work to solidify the vision by crafting a creative project like a painting, a vision board or journaling. Start with your intention in mind and start using your creativity to bring it to life.
Now that your light is on, take action with these four steps! Get support. Keep sharing it with others. If you hit a bump in the road go back to your vision, your why and your artwork to keep you motivated. And remember to have fun along the way!